In the late 1980s, I was beginning a low-cost journey to the European continent with a friend. Because my friend was considering pursuing a master’s degree in the Big Apple, we had booked a two-week stay there before heading to London.
We arrived at the postgrad residence, a large multi-story edifice on the Upper West Side named International House. Setting down our luggage, we made our way to the canteen, where we got some food, took a seat, and started talking to people eating there.
Beside me was an individual of Iraqi origin pursuing an engineering degree at a prestigious New York university. He inquired what I did for a living, and I told him that I had just graduated with a scientific background and had been working on studies using an electron microscope.
He pointed out that there was an electron microscope unit at the institution – adjacent to the engineering faculty, which was why he was aware of it. He suggested that I should apply for a job with them. I chuckled at the suggestion, explaining that I was about to fly to Europe and, more critically, I did not possess a US visa.
The next day I toured the city, coming back to the dining hall that night. The engineering student approached me and informed me that he had organized a discussion for me with the head of the electron microscope unit at Columbia. Because he had made the arrangement, I went to the meeting – but immediately told my prospective employer that I was without a work permit, so I was likely not a suitable candidate.
Reflecting the city's spirit – a place where anything feels possible – she said: “We'll handle it. How soon can you begin?” I didn't board the aircraft to London.
I held that position for 36 months. A perk of the job was that I was granted free tuition at Columbia, and I used the opportunity to earn a master’s of international affairs.
I lost touch with him and I can't recall his full name, but his incredible act of kindness changed my life in multiple respects. I lacked the bravery or self-assurance to contact anyone at an prestigious college and seek a position. Additionally, I had consistently hoped to study abroad, but lacked the financial means without that educational benefit.
What's more, that role at the university resulted in a position in Switzerland where I encountered my wonderful partner, with whom I now have four wonderful sons and daughters. It was a total sliding doors moment. That helpful person set me on a different course in life, and I’m forever grateful.
Can you recall the Kindest Gesture a Someone You Didn't Know Has Once Performed for You?
From brightening your mood to altering your path, we want to hear about random meetings that have remained in your memory.
We invite you to tell us if you are an adult, without revealing your identity if you wish. The stories you tell are protected, and are intended for the aim of this article.
